Note: Throughout this essay, the letters A and B are used deliberately to isolate the underlying mechanism from any particular individual, movement or ideology. A represents a person or group seeking to establish its worth through comparison with B, the person or group against whom that worth is measured. Modern feminism and its relationship with men provides one possible application, particularly where the pursuit of equality develops into a continuing need to demonstrate equality or superiority. The same mechanism may operate within political movements, social groups, institutions or individuals whose sense of worth becomes dependent on comparison with another. The use of A and B allows the proposition to be examined independently of these applications. Whether any particular movement exhibits the mechanism remains a separate question requiring evidence, not an assumption established by the model itself.
A and B are not entered in the same event. A pianist and a guitarist are not two runners, and a baker and a builder are not the same trade. The contest begins when A makes B’s attributes the measure of A’s worth, not when A and B line up for the same prize.
There is a competition that cannot be won.
Not because the opponent is unbeatable.
Because beating the opponent does not end the need to compete.
That distinction changes everything.
In an ordinary competition, both sides know what they are doing. Two runners enter a race. There is a starting line, a finish line and a result. One wins. One loses. Tomorrow they may race again, but today’s contest is finished.
Proof competition is different.
One person, or one group, looks at another and decides:
What you have represents something about what I lack.
From that moment, the other party becomes the benchmark.
And the contest begins.
But there is a peculiar feature to this kind of competition.
The benchmark does not have to agree.
It does not have to participate.
It does not even have to know the competition exists.
The Competitor Who Never Entered
Call the two parties A and B.
A looks at B and feels lesser.
B may not feel superior to A.
B may not think about A at all.
B may actually like A.
B may encourage A.
B may support A.
None of that matters to the existence of the contest.
Because B did not create it.
A did.
A decided B represented the position against which A’s own value would be measured.
That makes this a very strange competition.
A has an opponent.
B has been given one.
There was no agreement.
No negotiation.
No starting gun both parties heard.
A simply began running against B.
And B cannot say no.
B can refuse to argue.
A can still compete.
B can provide encouragement.
A can still compete.
B can give A opportunities.
A can still compete.
B can concede ground.
A can still compete.
B can acknowledge A’s achievements.
A can still compete.
B can disappear completely.
A can continue competing with what B represents.
This is the first uncomfortable feature of the perpetual contest.
The person being competed against has no control over whether the competition exists.
Then B Notices
For a long time, B may not understand what is happening.
B sees demands individually.
A wants access.
Fair enough.
A wants recognition.
Fair enough.
A wants opportunity.
Fair enough.
A wants an obstacle removed.
Perhaps it should be removed.
B may respond to each request separately because B does not yet see the larger pattern.
But eventually B notices something.
The contest does not end.
Yesterday’s achievement becomes today’s starting point.
Yesterday’s concession becomes today’s minimum expectation.
The victory that was supposed to establish value somehow requires another victory.
And then another.
And eventually B stops looking at the individual demands and notices the relationship connecting them.
B asks:
Why are you still competing with me?
That question changes the conversation.
Not because B can stop the competition.
B cannot.
It changes the conversation because the involuntary competitor has finally identified the contest.
Who Declared the Race?
Until this point, A has been able to describe the relationship entirely from A’s perspective.
We are catching B.
We are proving ourselves against B.
We are entering B’s territory.
We are achieving what B achieved.
We are demonstrating that we can do what B can do.
We are breaking through the barriers between us and B.
Then B asks a very simple question:
Who decided I was the standard?
That question is difficult.
Because the answer cannot be B.
B did not declare the competition.
A did.
And that means every declaration about catching B contains an admission that B was the thing considered worth catching.
Every declaration about entering B’s territory identifies whose territory was considered desirable.
Every demand to prove equality with B identifies whose recognition still matters.
The contest that was intended to erase a hierarchy keeps revealing the hierarchy inside the contestant’s own measurement.
That does not prove that A is objectively lesser than B.
It proves something more precise.
A is still using B to determine A.
Winning Doesn’t Work
This is where the contest becomes perpetual.
Suppose A wins.
A reaches the position B occupied.
Has the problem disappeared?
Only if A no longer needs B as the benchmark.
Otherwise the next question arrives immediately.
Does A have as much as B?
As many as B?
The same status as B?
The same recognition as B?
More than B?
The comparison survives the victory.
And therefore the original problem survives the victory.
This is why proof competition has no natural finish line.
If A loses, B remains the benchmark.
If A wins, B remains the benchmark.
If A draws level, B remains the benchmark.
If A surpasses B, B can still remain the benchmark because surpassing B is itself a measurement against B.
A can move from:
I am below B
to:
I am equal to B
and finally:
I am above B.
And still never escape B.
The symbol changes.
The equation does not.
B remains on the page.
The Mistake We Make About Equality
This exposes a deeper problem.
We tend to assume that the cure for feeling inferior is equality.
It isn’t necessarily.
Because:
I am inferior to B.
and:
I am equal to B.
have something important in common.
Both require B.
Even:
I am superior to B
still requires B.
All three statements are comparative valuations.
A is still looking sideways.
That means equality can settle an external arrangement without settling the internal contest.
You can equalise the rules.
Equalise access.
Equalise legal standing.
Equalise opportunity.
You can even equalise an outcome.
Those may all be worthwhile objectives in their own right.
But none automatically answers the question that created the proof competition:
What am I worth if I stop looking at B?
That is an entirely different question.
The Horse With Blinkers
Imagine a horse running around a track.
Without blinkers, it continually looks sideways.
Where is the other horse?
Am I ahead?
Am I behind?
Am I gaining?
Am I losing?
Its position is understood through everybody around it.
Now put the blinkers on.
The other horses still exist.
Some are faster.
Some are slower.
Some may be stronger.
Some may have advantages this horse does not possess.
None needs to disappear.
The horse simply stops using them to determine the value of its own run.
Yesterday it ran the distance in ten minutes.
Today it runs it in nine minutes fifty.
That’s the measurement.
Tomorrow it tries for nine forty-five.
A against A.
Personal best.
Now we have finally left B behind.
Not beaten B.
Not defeated B.
Not made B smaller.
Not forced B to admit anything.
Not extracted recognition from B.
B has simply ceased to be part of A’s valuation.
That is the finish line.
From A Versus B to A Versus A
This is the difference between 1 and 2.
A 1 looks sideways.
A → B
Tell me what I am by showing me where I stand relative to you.
A false resolution changes the mathematical sign.
A = B
or perhaps:
A > B
But B remains in the equation.
The real resolution removes B.
A → A
Am I becoming better at being what I am?
That is a completely different orientation.
And it explains why the return to 2 cannot be achieved through victory.
A 2 is not the winner of the contest.
A 2 no longer needs the contest to establish value.
The Clan and the Name
This becomes easier to see when applied to groups.
Imagine two clans.
They are different.
Clan A has attributes particular to A.
Clan B has attributes particular to B.
If A is comfortable in what A is, those differences do not automatically create an injury.
A can say:
That is B.
This is us.
B may be better at something.
A may be better at something else.
Some attributes may overlap.
Others may never overlap.
None of this requires either clan to convert difference into a total ranking of human worth.
Most importantly, A does not need B’s characteristics in order to validate A’s own.
This is where names become revealing.
A clan-specific noun identifies a group.
If A can wear its own identification comfortably, it does not need to ask B whether the identification is sufficiently prestigious.
A says:
This is what we are.
And then the important second sentence:
These are the things we value about being it.
There is no borrowed scoreboard.
No application for B’s approval.
No requirement that B surrender its own attributes so A can feel comfortable with A’s.
A has put the blinkers on.
Not through ignorance of B.
Through security in A.
Difference Stops Being Dangerous
This has an unexpected consequence.
Once A stops comparing itself with B, difference becomes much easier to tolerate.
If B possesses something A does not possess, that no longer automatically reduces A.
If B excels somewhere A does not, that no longer requires an explanation for A’s failure.
If B prefers something different, A does not automatically experience that preference as a verdict.
And A can acknowledge B’s strengths without feeling diminished by them.
That is important.
Because a person who needs to deny another person’s strengths in order to preserve their own value is still looking sideways.
A person at ease can say:
You’re better than me at that.
And remain completely comfortable.
Because that was never the measure of their total worth.
The same works in reverse.
A can recognise something valuable in itself without demanding that B possess it too.
Difference is no longer hierarchy.
It is simply difference.
What Happens When B Calls It Out?
Now we can return to the difficult part.
What happens when B finally recognises the perpetual contest and says so?
B cannot resolve it.
That needs to be absolutely clear.
B cannot make A put the blinkers on.
B cannot make A value A.
B cannot make A stop comparing.
B cannot hand A enough victories to accomplish it.
And B cannot lose deliberately enough to accomplish it either.
All B can do is identify what B can now see.
You are still measuring yourself against me.
A may hate hearing that.
In fact, the observation itself may initially produce another round of competition.
A may accuse B of arrogance.
B may be accused of wanting to retain superiority.
The observation may be treated as another obstacle that must be defeated.
But none of that changes the mechanism.
If A needs B to withdraw the observation before A can feel equal, B is still determining A.
If A needs B to apologise, B is still determining A.
If A needs B to lose something, B is still determining A.
If A needs B to acknowledge A’s equality, B is still determining A.
Even if every demand is granted, A remains looking sideways until A decides to stop.
That is why B cannot provide the resolution.
The Most Difficult Victory Is Not a Victory
This is where the language becomes awkward, because we are accustomed to thinking in terms of winners.
Who wins?
A?
B?
Neither.
Winning is the wrong concept.
The resolution is not A defeating B.
It is A becoming sufficiently comfortable in A that defeating B becomes unnecessary.
That may initially feel like surrender.
If generations of identity have been constructed around a contest, leaving the contest can feel suspiciously like losing it.
If we stop fighting them, they win.
But listen carefully to that sentence.
Them.
B is still there.
The comparison remains.
The real transition sounds completely different:
What can we become?
What do we value?
What are our strengths?
Where are our weaknesses?
What can we improve?
What did we do yesterday?
Can we do it better tomorrow?
The horse is finally looking down its own lane.
The Perpetual State Ends Here
This gives the perpetual state of lesser an ending.
Not an imposed ending.
Not one B can negotiate.
Not one institutions can legislate into existence.
Not one that can be delivered through another concession or another victory.
A ends it.
The moment A stops requiring B as the measuring stick, the contest disappears from A’s valuation.
B can remain exactly where B was.
Nothing has to be taken from B.
Nothing has to be transferred to A.
No admission of defeat is required.
A simply stops looking sideways.
And this reveals something important about the original contest.
A may have spent years believing freedom lay somewhere beyond B.
Beat B.
Catch B.
Equal B.
Surpass B.
Make B acknowledge A.
But every one of those roads still led back to B.
The exit was in the opposite direction.
Inward.
Toward a value capable of standing without comparison.
Toward attributes that could be worn rather than defended.
Toward improvement measured against yesterday rather than somebody else’s today.
Toward a clan capable of saying this is what we are without immediately asking how that compares with what somebody else is.
The finish line was never beyond B.
It was the moment B stopped being the finish line.
That is how A returns to 2.
Not by finally winning the perpetual contest.
By becoming the person who no longer needs one.
Application note: the university sequence
This is an application. It is not proof of the proposition.
The named objective was access to the Australian university, and pay for the same work. In 1969 the Arbitration Commission set equal pay where women did the same work as men, and raised the female award minimum to 85 per cent of the male rate. In 1972 it adopted equal pay for work of equal value. By 1987, for the first time, more women than men were enrolled in Australian higher education. Women have been the majority ever since.
The comparison did not retire. Once women were the majority of students, the unfinished standard moved to the fields where men were still the larger number, and it stayed there. Engineering has moved toward parity by about a fifth of a percentage point a year. Information technology went the other way: women were 27 per cent of IT students in 1989 and 17 per cent in 2016. Nursing and teaching, where women were already the great majority, were not treated as the score that settled the question. The male share remained the court. A practical door had opened. The benchmark was still him.
That is the sequence. Access was the objective. Enrolment crossed. The demand continued, aimed at the domains still coded as his. Whether that continuation is a proof contest or a new practical grievance is the open question. The dates show only that the first objective was met, and the comparison did not go home.
With warmth and unflinching honesty,
Jeff Box and Samantha Masters
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